How To Flirt With Women And Why...
I want to talk about the concept of "flirting",
and why it's SO important that you understand exactly
what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is, and
they respond VERY differently to flirting communication
than they do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension,
you can begin conversations with women and have them
INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual
tension work, then you're either going to have to
become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful
with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt
well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your
interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play
fight" with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestling
and "real" wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's happening...
when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then
jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans
(and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing"
and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're
very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?"
in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I realize that
you're probably shy because you get no attention from
men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention
to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious.
This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes,
or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky
& Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated
way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a
specific kind of humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write in because
they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around
women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious
to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a different way...
If you know how to communicate the right way, women
will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a
HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting in a
Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult
verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in
a woman's mind, and cause her to go into a very special
kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get
it". In other words, you have to actually get out there
and practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute
line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're
a loser." Instead of just realizing that they need
more practice or that the woman might have just been
in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't
have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally
and decide to just have it mean that they're a failure.
But take my word for it... once you learn how to
flirt effectively and communicate in the language of
"adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women
will respond to you.
Here's an example of some of one of my favorite
topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting
married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give
it to you in the form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind,
I might have a conversation like this one with a woman
that I just met five minutes earlier...
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married?
We could leave for Vegas right now and be married
in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."
Her: Laughter "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support
the both of us on your income? I really want to be
a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on
the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over
between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce
you a week later and take half your money."
Her: Laughter "You can't break up with me! I'm not
even your girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job
and income) and redirecting the conversation in a
flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood
and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce,
and breaking up over her not supporting me, etc.).
If the above example doesn't make any sense to
you, then take that as a sign that you need to get
out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and she says "I'm sorry,
we don't have that", just say "OK, this relationship
isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up
with you."
In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation
with ANY woman where she's saying something that you
don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING,
you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT
KIND OF COMMUNICATION than most men initiate.
And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages"
you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot
of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE
WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow,
look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate
it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down
at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then
raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!"
realization... then start smiling and nodding your
head as if you just realized that she wants you. This
is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it
exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but
the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED
TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR
INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
It will set off all of your conversations with
women on the right foot, and start a dialogue that
creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women
like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations
that NEVER lead to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're
flirting with them or not. If you are, and you're doing
it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get amazing responses.
One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION
effectively is projecting confidence and indifference
both in your voice tone and body language as you do
it.
And in order to project these things you need to
have the right understanding and BELIEFS about how
male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be able to
project them through your conversation to women.
In my CD audio series, I explain the most important
beliefs to project, and exactly how to project them
so the woman you're talking to senses INSTANTLY and
at an UNCONSCIOUS level that you know how to communicate
on many levels with her... all through body language,
voice tone, and words.
Of course, I also teach many, many ways to tease,
use Cocky & Funny, and flirt with women... including
all of my personal favorites. One great benefit of
listening to the audio series is that you can ACTUALLY
HEAR ME LIVE teaching how I communicate. As you can
imagine, this is basically priceless.
Anyways, go check
it out:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingSystem.com/AdvancedSeries/
And if you haven't gone and downloaded my online
eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to get your
ass in gear and do that right now. You can download it
and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now.
Get it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingSystem.com/Ebook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend
David D.
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